reaches a level of pain and powerlessness as a consequence of countless hurts and misunderstandings, a strange pall descends upon it.Avenues of coping may have been explored: talking, arguing, even seeing a therapist. Whatever the previous process, couples fall upon the passive-aggressive punch as the unfortunate methodology of choice and an anguished outlet for pain.However, amongst the many “survival” strategies, the passive-aggressive solution is clearly one of the very worst. Hall-Flavin: That succinct definition captures what is so poisonous about this “defense”, it’s indirectness.Similar to some physical illnesses where much remains hidden, undiagnosable, while quietly wreaking havoc on the body, relationship disorders can be equally insidious.stops chatting, sharing details of family life; someone refrains from conveying essential data such as appointments, social events, school open houses, soccer games; someone “forgets” to share news about changes at work, relative illnesses……perhaps to create a fight, to let some of the pain ooze out; or to message “you don’t count, you don’t exist in my equation anymore, you show no interest in me, so why should I bring you into my world”.
This tends to happen when people act out, rather than ‘talk out,’ their feelings.
This can often lead to frustration, as this type of behavior rarely results in a desired outcome.
If you are not the one with passive aggressive anger, then maybe you have witnessed it through an interaction with someone else.
A coworker, friend, spouse, or family member may have verbally communicated something, but through observation you notice their words and actions were not aligned. Other forms of passive aggressive behavior could come in the form of silent treatment, withdrawal, or procrastination.
A simple example could be, someone saying “I’m fine,” and then slamming a door right after. Developing stronger communication skills, at any age, improves your overall quality of life, as you are better able to handle work, home, and social situations.