He is giving you a chance to get out now while you can.
He’s also telling you who he is and trying to make you be real about him and the relationship so that you can opt out.
There’s nothing mysterious about what he’s saying – he’s giving you a heads up and a warning.
(source) Bird attacking: Fear of ideas, ideals or opinions; verbal or mental (suggestions or suggestive behaviour) attack by others; fear of going beyond one’s narrow boundaries.
But what I’ve found to most often be the case is that men are reticent to admit to wanting to have sexual relations, as though admitting that is somehow going to result in some catastrophic implosion of the dating universe. And every single time I was confused about what signals I was putting out there that suggested I wanted anything more than what I said I wanted – which was simply a warm body to cuddle up to.
So finally, one night I said yes to the “cuddle” invitation, and when he started making advances, I stopped him (as I always did, because when I say I want to cuddle, that is not code for “I want to sleep with you”; it really does mean cuddle) and I asked “Is ‘cuddle’ some kind of subtle code for ‘let’s have sex’?
At first I thought it was fun (being new to the dating scene, and never having really done the dating thing in my younger years), but as time has gone on, I’ve discovered that it can be really, really exhausting. I’ve put a lot of myself out into the ether of the internet (from discovering myself to be polyamorous to the health repercussions of my breakup and consequent brief personal meltdown).
So when I’m dating, I’ve got no qualms about being honest about my intentions, my feelings, and my desires.