The stereotype that men are inherently more "visual" than women may actually have some truth when it comes to sexual attraction.
A study on gendered responses to stimuli published in the Archive of Sexual Behavior demonstrated that men "responded more to visual sexual stimuli than did women" and that "women discriminated less in their responses" to said stimuli.
The nearest potential hangout spot might be a gay bar or club many miles outside your city's limits.
For all I know, Grindr may be your only point of reference.
When you're gay on Valentine's Day, you are constantly reminded of the lack of representation of men and women just like you in advertising, marketing campaigns and even in the terrible shopping catalogs that get sent to your apartment.
When you're gay on Valentine's Day and are bombarded with heteronormative scenery — from the couples kissing in the street and holding hands to the men buying gifts in the form of oversized teddy bears and chocolate — you look at yourself and wonder where you went wrong.
But I gave up my sapphic romantic pursuits on hookup apps a while ago.
I live in New York City, a mecca of fun, enlightenment, parties, bar-hopping, culture, food, passion and love.
You, dear reader, may live in a small town with few options.
When you're gay on Valentine's Day, the reality hits you.
You realize there is rarely a day as successful as this one at highlighting every single sad story you've ever believed about yourself. That the probability you'll be alone forever is in danger of proving itself 100 percent true. What can I say to ease the mind of the gay man living in areas nowhere near as privileged as my own?