There’s also the arduous process of finding a career that will work for a trans woman and dealing with family drama. You get stuck in the role as - with a teenage girl - during the common occasions she tries wearing completely inappropriate outfits.
But, alas the way most of us are taught about gender and sexuality means that this is a very real question being asked by very real people. A lesbian is a woman who is attracted to other women. However, just as genitals don’t come in to it initially when you meet anyone else you fancy, they shouldn’t come in to it when you find yourself attracted to a trans guy.
Only around 3% of the population does this, which is a very small minority. All of us not in cis female/male relationships have few role models, incestuous dating pools, lack of a historical support system, risk of being gawked at, and often have no familial acceptance.
But more and more certain members of the queer community feel a sense of entitlement to deride other people for their sexual attractions.
A transgender guy is someone who was born and labeled female by the doctor who took one look at their genitals when they were squeezed out of their mother. That’s exactly how it is when you fancy a trans guy. They will, of course, become a focal point for many people further down the line, even for me, but that’s a different issue than questioning your own sexuality.
Gender is not about genitals and I’d wager that if you saw a CIS guy (a man with a gender identity that matches the one they were assigned at birth) you wouldn’t wonder what was in his pants before deciding if you fancied him. You’d see him, you’d go ‘phowar’ and your sexuality wouldn’t even enter in to your head. If you’re female and you’re attracted to someone who identifies as male, you aren’t a lesbian, you aren’t even bisexual.