More than that, I thought that's what women wanted: men who were nice. However, most women seem to have the concepts confused. They distance themselves and give the cold shoulder whenever they don't want something from you; it makes her ego crazy – why doesn't he want her? If he just got to know her better, he would surely fall for her. Not because she’s not lovable but because he isn't loving.
She may believe she wants a nice guy, but in reality, she doesn't want a nice guy. He isn't looking for love because those who look for love quickly lose the whole bad boy flair.
He tells me that he doesn’t want to have to lower his standards for online dating. I let him know that it’s a burden for these women – and that lots of great guys get lost in the shuffle. Just like a baseball player fails 7 times out of 10, an online dater is going to get a lot more rejection than acceptance. And “The Rules” talks about waiting a week in between conversations to build up anticipation and establish that you’re busy.” I’m paraphrasing, of course. Ask most women what they’re looking for and you’ll get some version of “a nice guy with a little bit of an edge”. They just don’t want a guy who values himself so little that he has to try so very hard to impress.
The same women he can get in “real life” don’t respond to him online. He reminds me that each letter he writes that goes unanswered is a blow to the ego. Don’t let the process affect you; just be grateful for the potential that it presents. But the gist of it is that all of the experts out there have people believing that the way to forge a happy relationship is by playing games. And everything that you do that is in the least bit calculating is pushing you farther and father from what you claim to want – an authentic relationship where you can be loved and accepted for who you are. They value his ability to be a man, take control, make decisions, speak his mind and march to the beat of his own drum. Because they’ve tried to “nice” their way into women’s hearts and failed, they’re convinced that they have to start being jerks. The confidence that a man projects is the magnetism that draws women. Confidence without kindness describes “bad boys” that smart woman have long ago given up.
It’s far too complex, scary and difficult for mere mortals – so let’s bridge the gap by asking both men and women what doesn’t work when it comes to online dating Dating has gone digital.
Once considered a realm inhabited only by the socially awkward, online dating is now just another tool in the toolbox, no matter whether you’re looking for a hook-up or your soulmate.....
They show up on blogs to complain about how women don't appreciate Nice Guys like themselves, because even though the Nice Guy is so very , women are too self-involved to see the Real Him.
I didn't feel that I should go out of my way to be nice because I liked being nice. There are some women who want the nice guy because they understand that nice means good and not nice means bad. They aren't very open, keeping mostly to themselves – that's mysterious.
The essence of a bad boy is isolation, carelessness, self-indulgence, selfishness and attitude.
When you put it this way, it's difficult to understand why it is that women go for these kinds of guys.
There aren’t any nice guys left to you girls because you don’t respond to any of their messages. UPDATE: Ok as i stated i have been on this site for a while not because i am a reject or looking to score with as many as i can I am on here to find that special one.
i dont want a one night hook up (yes i am a man and have my need in that area but i am just that a man i can control my urges plus i desire intimacy over sex and no i am not soft )i am also a very nice guy who believe in being polite so if you receive a note from me thanking you for viewing my profile its just that a thank you note not a pick up alot of women on here need to check their attitudes all guy are not the same and if you keep running across creeps then look at yourself first it just might start there and finally yes i am a musician but i am not your typical one i know we have a bad rep but not all of us are womanizers so with all that being said if what i said offended you well…………are on the wrong page and you are still interested then read on ….