"That's not how many people were meeting their partners. didn't really reflect the Muslim women that I knew — who are really smart and fun and opinionated and sassy."We talked to Mattu, 39, a human rights consultant, and Maznavi, 33, a lawyer, about love, Muslim-American style. I brought up an article in the paper about Muslim matchmaking, and I told her I felt like there were a lot of other stories we never got to see.
Q: Are there common themes in the stories that you found?
It gave me hope that maybe there was a love story for me as well.
I always imagined that the end of the Radical Love column would come when I had fallen in love with the perfect man.
Interestingly, the lack of communication between Muslim men and women before marriage noted by many Muslim leaders is actually part of a larger problem that Ezzeldine believes is resulting in more interfaith matches.
Ezzeldine suggests that the Muslim community’s standards for interacting with members of the opposite sex are actually having a deleterious effect on marriage in the community.
In my story, taking fake boyfriends to Desi weddings, having a hot doctor that stars in telenovelas, and having a back-up baby-daddy for my geriatric uterus were a part of my off-color but meaningful Rom Com story.
It’s why I loved being a part of the book , so much – for the first time I saw my narrative side-by-side with 24 other Muslimah’s love stories.
You may have heard them at Skepticon, the American Atheists National Convention, the Huffington Post Live, and Have Your Say on the BBC World Service or read about them in the New York Times.Q: If there was one story you wanted non-Muslims to read, what would it be? That really challenged my assumptions around what that means.I love Aisha's story: There is a sense that Muslim women have arranged marriages or don't really know their partners when they get married.Computer science major Lena Hassan met her future husband online in 1994, long before Internet dating had become common practice.The true stories in "Love, Insh Allah: The Secret Love Lives of American Muslim Women" (Soft Skull Press) are as diverse as their authors, who are immigrant and assimilated, gay and straight, orthodox and secular."A lot has been said about Muslim women, but very little from ourselves," says co-editor Ayesha Mattu, who hatched the book idea with her friend Nura Maznavi five years ago, after yet another news story about arranged marriages."That's not how I met my partner," Mattu says. Mattu: Nura and I were hanging out in a cafe in San Francisco, where we both lived at the time.